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If I weren’t such a coward, I would post these thoughts on my Facebook status instead of here on my blog. But Facebook has burned me before, and I’m gun shy. (although if I weren’t such a weenie about unfriending people, it might be safer…)
The last couple of days I’ve had the most icky unbearable feeling. Not because of the Supreme Court’s ruling to allow Gay Marriage nationwide, but because of the reaction of many of my friends on Facebook. I’ve seriously considered unfriending some, but as I mentioned before, me = weenie.
My feed looks like this: All my gay friends and people who love them are rejoicing with sincere happiness. There is no “haha we won” there is no “you losers suck”. Just sincere happiness for a day and a ruling they have longed for.
Meanwhile my “Christian” friends are mostly posting damnation, doom, and gloom. It feels like sour grapes and ignorance and major jerky temper tantrums.
My personal reaction to the ruling:
1. Dude, this ruling has been inevitable for over a year, why is everyone so upset?
2. Predicting that the U.S. is suddenly heading for immediate destruction and damnation because of this ruling is ridiculous. There are tons of laws in this country already that make stuff legal that I or others believe is a sin. This one doesn’t suddenly shift the balance.
3. Since when did posting bible verses denouncing other people’s sins and inevitable damnation ever help anyone be better?
4. What is up with that acronym “SCOTUS”? Every time I read it, I think “scrotum”. Can’t they come up with a different one?
5. This ruling by the Supreme Court really just seems like fairness to me. I like fair.
6. I truly believe that we need to fight to protect families. But I believe the fight needs to begin with eradication of child abuse, pornography, drugs, and poverty. When we have gotten rid of those, then we can worry about whether those 2 gay women/men over there are somehow undermining families because they want to be married. (Even then I think it will sound ridiculous to me).
I will continue to teach my children in my home that sex outside of marriage is a sin, and that God’s plan is for a man and a woman to be married to bring forth children on this Earth. However, I will never think it is my place to go up to someone on the street, much less Facebook and tell them they are evil bad & nasty. My kids will know that it is never okay to be unkind or rude to someone because they are doing something we believe is wrong or because they believe differently than I.
Anecdote: I knew a young girl who became pregnant and was not married. At first, I felt a little unsure how to act. But I quickly decided a few things:
1. She knew what her mistake had been better than I, and my being unkind to her wouldn’t change either the mistake, the results, or her feelings about it.
2. Jesus would have been kind.
3. My snubbing her or lecturing her would not make her “see the light” or make her feel welcome at church, which is where she needed to be.
I feel the same thing applies to gay people. My only part is to be a friend. Not to judge, not to preach, certainly not to declare their sins to their face.
My part is to work on repenting of my own sins. Worrying about other people’s sins will not get me where I need to be.
We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience and allow all men the same privilege. Let them worship how, where, or what they may.